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| I am the happiest I have ever been |
| 06/24/2007 |
by cutie_patootie_5 |
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I never expected to meet the man of my dreams on a personals site, I first met Hank nervously after work one day and we hit it off so well we've hardly been apart since. The sex is amazing, the man is a working professional I have no idea how I would have met him otherwise. I am cancelling my membership but I recommend this site to all of my single girlfriends. Thankyou! Sarah
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| Does the internet cause infidelity? |
There are many people who jump at the chance to blame the internet and dating sites for a cheating spouse or partner. This is completely absurd. The internet does not create a cheater. The responsibility lies solely in the hands of the person choosing to stray. With that being said, there is also blame within the relationship. No one deserves to be cheated on. It is disgusting and deceitful. The act of cheating is only a symptom. To properly place blame, you need to know what the actually issue is. It can be fear of commitment, not being happy with a relationship but not wanting to give it up either, or needing an escape. Just as alcoholics drink, and smokers have their cigarettes, some people cheat to escape their problems. They create a second identity to be able to change what is in their actual life that they are not happy with. This is the biggest reason. It may not be anything within the relationship itself, but they are trying to escape something.
A relationship resulting from someone cheating has a slim chance of actually surviving. Do to the reason that the fantasy land that was created, once the relationship becomes reality the escape is gone. The magic that took all they stress away has dissipated. It is not necessarily anyones fault at that point, but it is why the saying once a cheater always a cheater was created. Now that the magic is gone, the person then seeks the same escape. That is the only way they know how to fix it.
This person is generally one who avoids conflicts, and hardly ever argues. So it may seem to the partner that everything is great, and they don?t know why it happened. If there are no arguments, someone is not being honest. You will not see eye to eye on every subject. Disagreements are a healthy aspect in a relationship, as long as something is gained. As long as there are arguments, there is passion. The passion stems from wanting things to be good, but not knowing how to obtain it. One thing about relationships is that they are not what they appear to be. There is her side, his side, and then the common ground of the relationship.
So if you had someone cheating by utilizing dating websites, it was not the accessibility that caused it. If it wasn't done that way, it would have been done some other way. There are certain things beyond our control, you either accept them or forget them. Regardless of which decision, you need to move on. Staying in a somber blameful state of mind will only damage every relationship in the future. It is the baggage that we chose to carry that gives us our character; you can only carry so much. If you chose to carry around hurt and anger, you have to let go of something else and a lot of times it costs us our trust and security. These are things you cannot live without.
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