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| I am the happiest I have ever been |
| 06/24/2007 |
by cutie_patootie_5 |
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I never expected to meet the man of my dreams on a personals site, I first met Hank nervously after work one day and we hit it off so well we've hardly been apart since. The sex is amazing, the man is a working professional I have no idea how I would have met him otherwise. I am cancelling my membership but I recommend this site to all of my single girlfriends. Thankyou! Sarah
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| Are you Really Ready for Love? |
If you have recently joined an online dating site, or have been frequenting the bars, there is a very important question you need to ask yourself. Are you ready for a relationship? There are a lot of people who want to find love, but do not want to have to work at a relationship. Relationships that last do take work. It is a constant struggle that is based solely on compromise. If you think of a relationship?s emotions as a checking account, it is a great analogy.
With a checking account, you have to make deposits in order to make withdrawals. You get a book of checks, and if you do not deposit enough to cover the checks you write out, the bank will close your account. Just like in a relationship, you have to give in to your partner in order to take. There has to be enough giving to cover the taking, if not the relationship will fail. It may last for 6 months or 6 years, but eventually the person doing all the giving will run out of patience.
I tend to think that the people that use dating sites may be more of the population that is looking for love without have to give too much. After all, they don't have to put forth too much effort, and what do they have to lose? I am not against dating online. I do however question the expectations of the people who use it. If you are expecting someone to find love for you, it will never happen. Love is not effortless, nor is a relationship. So, before you jump in head first, honestly ask your self what you are looking for. If it is companionship occasionally, that?s fine, but be upfront with anyone you talk to so they are on the same page. I think the people that are ?browsing? through online dating services are the ones who give it a bad name. They make themselves available when convenient, but they aren't exactly looking. These also tend to be the people complaining that Cupid has somehow passed them by.
If you really want Cupid to find you, go jump in front of one of his arrows. That is the only definite way to get struck with one of his arrows. If you are in fact ready for commitment, make it be known. Put in your profile that you are looking for someone with high expectations and long term goals and commitment. One thing these sites are not meant for is being shy or making someone read between the lines. A lot can get lost in translation from what you write, to what the other person reads. The opposite sexes have enough difficulty understanding what the other wants, so just speak your mind. To help spell it out for the hard headed, if you were waiting to catch a bus, would you continue to sit as it pulled up, or would you stand up and wave to assure the driver sees you? Go after what you want, it is the only way to be successful in anything you do in life.
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